Happy Friday boy mamas! Today I’m really excited to introduce you to Kirsten, mom of twins! I met Kirsten a few years ago and even had the privilege of meeting her in person. She is one of the most kind, caring, and sweetest people I have ever met. When you meet her, you fall in love with her – she’s adorable!
Twins! Giovanni and Jacob, 1/08
Describe your sons.
Gio is all boy, SPORTS and numbers. He is smitten with ESPN and sports standings of all kinds. He is quiet and introspective, selfish at times but so giving at others. He runs, he bounces, he follows the rules, and loves being a part of a team.
Jacob is my actor, my artist, my creative little being. He loves to dress up, mimic his favorite movies and his freehand artistic style is incredible. He is a joyful rule breaker, he carves his own path and marches to his own drum..literally.
How do you stay calm when surrounded by ALL that energy?
I don’t know. No, Seriously. Some days I am spent with all the “Boyness” and then one of them climbs into my lap and I’m smitten again.
I am thankful for extended care, and the room in our living room that makes it easy to run around…because sometimes I need an emotional break.
How do you instill gentlemanly behavior, actions, thoughts?
I talk of women often..and how we act around both sexes. I discourage any talk that makes less of anyone and I know that they see how John treats me (so well) and I know that we’re doing a pretty good job of raising them up to be emotional and respectful young men.
What do you like to do with your sons?
I love going to NYC with both boys, each one of them loves it for such different reasons, but I love sharing that city with them.
At home, I love watching a movie and snuggled up with them.
Where is your favorite place to shop for them?
Children’s Place. I am a loyal shopper because I love their sizing and choice of clothes. Plus they are reasonably priced, clothes wash well and the coupons rock.
How do you maintain close relationships with your sons as they age?
They are only 6, but I talk to them. I hug them and tell them I love them every single day. I am interested in their lives, their interests and their thoughts. I allow them to talk to me about anything and I hope that it reminds me that I’ll always be there for them. No matter what.
What type of sports or activities do they participate in?
None yet, we will start soccer, baseball and football this spring/Summer. I am having palpitations about it already.
What are some books/series your sons like to read?
Oh we love the Llama Llama books, the Bear Books, and The Miss Nelson books. Now as they turn 6, it will be time to share the Harry Potter books. I will start reading the first book with them this week.
How do you handle violence in play? Some of this is normal “boy” behavior, but when do you feel it crosses the line? How do you guide them?
I cut it off about half way through. I know that they like to roughhouse, but I also worry about them hurting each other or another child, so I will step in about 5 minutes into it. I let them get the aggression out but then I just say “that’s enough”.
I don’t know how that will go when they are older, but for now, it’s working.
Hmmmm, I don’t remember. They don’t make a lot of messes and they hate messes as much as I do, so I’d hate to think back to them as babies. Gosh, I don’t remember.
I love being a boy mom because ______
I am responsible for nurturing two boys who will become men. I know the partners they choose later in life will be lucky indeed.
Give us your best boy mom tip!
I was kind of hoping someone would help me with this one. Just kidding! My best tip would be that having boys doesn’t mean giving up the emotional side of your parenting relationship.
Having twins can be a sticky wicked because they hit milestones together and they have the same feelings, emotions and gripes simultaneously. One of my sons is a natural athlete and mathematician, so rational it scares the pants off me. While the other is a born actor. So creative and introspective I can already see him penning novels or accepting an SAG award.
This makes being their mom a gentle balance of celebrating each of them for completely different things while reminding each of them that they will always hold a special and unique place in my heart (that looks, sounds and beats exactly the same way)
However, we do have our “things.” We quote movies to one another, we all love Billy Joel and the song “Ebony Eyes” and I find that they gravitate toward pink/yellow/blue things because they are my favorite colors.
I wrote about a mantra that we share recently, about how a night of frustration and yelling turned into four words that we say to one another every morning (and some evenings before they drift off to sleep too).
Be kind. Be smart. Behave. Believe.
Our daily prayer that we are all always doing our best to be kind, to be intelligent and to have complete faith in the certainty of magic.
Make sure to follow Kirsten on twitter @KirstenPiccini.
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