This morning as I was sipping my cup of coffee reading through my Facebook stream, I came across the video below. Of course when I saw the title “War on Boys” I had to click and watch.
The video talks about how boys in America’s schools are routinely punished for being active, competitive, and restless.
My one friend was telling me the other day that her 2nd grader is having a hard time focusing and the teachers make comments to her all the time. Another friend of mine told me that her son’s teacher called her about her son’s active behavior and that he should be seen by his Pediatrician for possible ADHD since he can’t sit still.
The book, Helping Boys Learn by Dr. Edmond Dixon, has really opened up my eyes to the way boys function. Now I don’t get frustrated when my older son taps his foot while doing homework or when he fidgets in his seat. Boys learn differently, they need movement.
I wish all teachers, parents, and educators would read this book so that they can understand and learn tactics to help boys in school. Boys and girls should never be compared just like children in general should never be compared to their peers.
Over the last few months, I started reading more books and articles to help me understand the way boys learn so I can help my own children succeed in school. Getting frustrated with them is not the answer. I’ve seen a big improvement in my older son since I changed the way we do homework and learning activities.
Some of the key takeaways from the video:
- Being a normal boy is a serious liability in today’s classroom.
- Increasingly today’s schools have little patience for what years ago was considered “boyishness”.
- We need to think about how we can make our grade schools more “boy friendly”.
- Turn boys into readers; boys score lower on national reading tests.
- We need to inspire the male imagination.
- If boys are constantly subject to disapproval for their interests and enthusiasms, they are likely to become disengaged and lag further behind.
- Bring back recess; a recent study said that since the 1970’s school children have lost up to 50% of their unstructured outdoor play time.
- Boys need to work off their energy.
And the biggest takeaway…..if boys are in trouble, so are we as parents!