Happy Valentine’s Day! Meet today’s boy mom Diane! She’s mom to Andrew and the author behind Knitting Zeal, where you’ll find lots of ideas for crafts, recipes, and more!
Describe your son.
My son is the best thing to happen to our family. I never imagined that I’d be a boy-mom, but now that I have him I’m so glad. He is creative, funny, smart, imaginative, curious, and loves to talk! He is our only child, although he has about 250 imaginary brothers and sister that live with us and our friends and relatives. The total of the imaginary siblings changes, but he has assured us that we are not their parents and we don’t have to pay for all of them to go to college.
He loves trains, especially commuter or passenger trains and specifically SEPTA trains. He wants to drive a SEPTA train when he is older, after college. He also wants to be a life guard, but only at Sesame Place (because he thinks they don’t have to get their faces wet there) or on Long Beach Island.
How do you stay calm when surrounded by ALL that energy?
His energy outlives both of his parents. I try to make sure he has enough physical activity during the day to tire him out, but it seems like he just becomes more energized at night. I love bedtime for him because it means my house will finally be quiet and no one will talk to me.
How do you instill gentlemanly behavior, actions, thoughts?
We discuss feelings and appropriate behavior all the time. I’m a therapist by trade, so this is an area I’m very comfortable addressing. When something negative occurs, I use it as a teachable moment to discuss different ways to handle the situation in the future should it happen again. Fortunately, it is in his disposition to be a rule follower, so he is mostly very well behaved. Except, of course, when he thinks it’s funny to dance around his room naked hysterically laughing. Then I give up!
What do you like to do with your son?
We love to visit farms, especially our CSA, Pennypack Farm and Education Center. We have fun going to the Please Touch Museum and Sesame Place. We regularly visit our library and read every day together. He likes to help me bake, especially when making pancakes on Sundays.
Where is your favorite place to shop for your son?
The Lego store! Ha! For clothes, I don’t have one favorite place. I like Gymboree, the Children’s Place, Lands End, and Old Navy clothes, but it depends on the season. Sometimes the choices in boy clothes are disappointing. He is not into super heroes, and they seem to be on everything lately! I love classic looks on little boys: jeans with a cable knit sweater and a button down shirt underneath. In my dreams he dresses like that daily. The reality is he wears Phillies Tees and cargo shorts!
How do you maintain close relationships with your son as he ages?
My husband is convinced that part of the umbilical cord is still attached, my son and I are that close. He’s still my baby. I hope that as he becomes independent, he will still look to me for advice. Someday it will be nice to meet him for lunch or dinner and discuss his adult life!
What type of sports or activities does your son participate in?
My son plays soccer and takes swim lessons at the local YMCA. He has very active, strong legs, so soccer is a perfect sport for him.
What are some books/series your son likes to read?
Lately we’ve been reading the Bad Kitty series. He loves the Lego City books, and books by Mo Willems, Bob Shea and Kate Klise. We also recently read Charlie and the Chocolate Factory.
How do you handle violence in play? Some of this is normal “boy” behavior, but when do you feel it crosses the line? How do you guide your son?
Luckily, he isn’t very aggressive. I was very anti toy gun forever. Then he turned five and was introduced to water guns, played police at school every day and was using his finger as a gun on the playground. When he wanted a water gun, I stressed over it. My husband was the one who pointed out to me that our son’s use of the gun was really just for play, as his exposure to violence has been minimal. So now we have water guns and some alien space ray guns. The rule is he cannot shoot mommy with the water gun! He knows that I don’t like them, but he doesn’t know why. Having been to a funeral of a child accidentally killed by hand gun play, I have to remind myself to not over-react at the toys. As he grows older I’ll have to revisit this with him in regards to personal safety.
If you have a fighter, how do you handle?
He is not a physical fighter, but he will argue you to death. I remind him that he is a child, I am the adult. I get the final say. It works most of the time!
My entire house is filled with Legos. They multiply at night. As much as I try, I cannot keep them organized.
I love being a boy mom because ______
it is fun without the drama! He is a noise with dirt on him and I love him to pieces!
Give us your best boy mom tip!
Turn off the screens and let them use their imaginations to play. Give them empty boxes, wrapping paper tubes and bubble wrap. Be amazed at how they can entertain themselves with items from the recycling bin. Let them dig in the sand or dirt, build forts with pillows and blankets, and get them a teepee or tent. The imagination is better than any store bought toy or video game!
Thank you Diane for letting me feature you and Andrew! Make sure to follow Diane on twitter at @Knittingzeal.
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