Happy Friday! Meet today’s boy mom, Debra from The Harried Mom and her adorable son, Jack! I love that Debra has 6 house rules that they review every morning – what a great way to teach children responsibility and what type of behavior is acceptable vs. not acceptable.
Describe your son.
My son is my golden boy, literally, he’s got blond hair and blue eyes. He can make me laugh like no other person in the entire world. He’s definitely an entertainer, but he also is an adult pleaser. Jack is funny, serious, inquisitive, super sweet and loving. He tells me that no matter how old he gets, he’ll let his old mom snuggle up to and give him nibble kisses. The way to my boy’s heart is anything LEGO, Skylander, Star Wars, video game and dinosaurs, so in other words, your typical guy. As he often tells me, being six and going to school sometimes is “really super hard,” trying to follow rules, doing math and having to go to a special table at lunchtime to eat his beloved peanut & jelly sandwiches!
How do you stay calm when surrounded by ALL that energy?
It’s not always easy – but I try not to get totally caught up in the moment and get totally stressed out by all that is going on. Sometimes I just close my eyes and count to three – and then look at him again, and realize that he isn’t going to be this little or mom-dependent forever.
How do you instill gentlemanly behavior, actions, thoughts?
We have a list of six house rules that are up on our refrigerator. We review them everyday before he goes off to school, camp or wherever we’re spending the day. We also talk a lot about right and wrong – sometimes using his own behavior as the starting point or when we’re out and about and see other children his age. I try to praise him or point out when he is doing the right thing or when he is being helpful, which encourages him to continue on. Though we are still working on sitting down at the dinner table (instead of standing) and literally shoveling all his food in his mouth so he can be excused from the table!
What do you like to do with your son?
We like to play LEGOs – we have contests to see who can build the craziest house, car or airplane. We also like to read books together – we take turns each reading a page. Every Friday night we watch a crazy monster movie – nothing too scary – but his favorites are all the Godzilla ones. He also like to help cook – and has helped me make some great family meals.
How do you maintain close relationships with your son as he ages?
Communication and spending dedicated one-on-one time with him. Usually at night I make sure to sit with him and ask him questions about his day – not the “yes” or ‘no” kind, but ones that he has to think about and answer. I ask him about his feelings and what he thinks about things. I’m usually surprised and amazed at his answers and the thought/logic behind them. By talking with each other, instead of me to him – I’m building trust with my son – and that he can always rely on me for anything he needs.
What type of sports or activities does your son participate in?
My son loves soccer – both indoor and outdoor. He loves running around and having the ball. he’s very good at weaving back and forth – sneaking around his competitors. He’s also very much into karate. He started earlier this spring and is now on his way to earn his second belt. It helps him with following directions, taking personal pride and discipline. He’s also been toying around with a small guitar we have recently and has asked if he can take lessons.
Where is your favorite place to shop for your sons?
GAP, Old Navy, Lands End, Target
What are some books/series your son likes to read?
Captain Underpants!, LEGO Ninjago, Dr. Seuss, Mike Mulligan and his Steam Shovel, Harold and the Purple Crayon.
Biggest mess he’s made.
Anytime he goes into his room or the playroom and takes out his LEGOs – or Hero Factory pieces, it’s like walking thru a mind-field in there. He has them all scattered around the floor and always seems to forget one or two pieces that I usually step on and cry out in pain!
How do you handle violence in play?
Lots of times my son is acting out scenes he sees on TV like with Power Rangers so there is lots of using his arms as swords and karate kicks. I think I’m a little more tolerable when he does that with his friends, since they all seem to do that – but if it’s more than a tap I intervene immediately so it doesn’t wind up in a tit-for-tat. I often remind him that what he sees in movies and on TV are pretend and that they really aren’t hitting or kicking them. I automatically stop that behavior when he and my younger daughter get into it. I don’t think that behavior is acceptable with girls, even if it is his sister.
I love being a boy mom because______
I’ve never been a girly-girl myself and I don’t have to “do” his hair!
Give us your best boy mom tip!
You have to be able to roll with it. You have to let them experiment and be independent. Yes, they are going to fall down, get hurt and make a huge mess – but it’s all learning for them and how to become responsible and eventually the adult/man they are to become.
Debra’s Something Special:
Here’s a list of fun crafts and activities that Debra has done with her son that I’m sure you’ll enjoy too!
For more ideas, visit her blog, The Harried Mom.
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