Big Brother (5/05) & Little Brother (1/08)
Describe your sons.
Big Brother is stoic, creative, and a reader. He is fiercely protective of me and incredibly loving. He wants to be a video game designer when he grows up.
Little Brother is a force of nature that is all boy. He thinks headbutting is a form of affection and if you aren’t a little hurt by how hard he hugs, then he wants to try again. He has tons of energy and wants to be a meterologist or a doctor when he grows up. My bet is on demolitionist.
How do you stay calm when surrounded by ALL that energy?
Our lives are a constant speeding train. I spend my days at work, my evenings at sports practice, and my weekends at games. I’m a single mom so I take a book with me everywhere. At karate, I grab some time to read or chat with friends. I lead the host team at church. I find that always having a good book and good friends keeps me calm and grounded.
How do you maintain a close relations with your boys?
I make sure that I spend time with each son doing what he loves, learning from him. I know more about Minecraft and Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles than I ever wanted to. But I also introduce them to things I like such as an 80s movie, a new food, or an activity like writing. We try to discover new things together.
What do you like to do with your sons?
We build legos, play games like Minecraft and Skylanders, we watch tv, we read books. We have general silliness. We like to attend local events like the Mud Run and the Sidewalk Chalk Art contest.
How do you instill gentlemanly behavior, actions, thoughts?
It’s a struggle trying to figure out how to raise two men as a single mom. I just keep repeating the same lessons over and over. Some battles will never be won, like learning to use an inside voice. I’m determined that they will know how to put their socks up off the floor before they get married!
I give my kids the opportunity to make choices. I let them make bad choices along with the good choices. I think that by allowing them to have a strong role in family decision making now, I can guide them and show them how to make good decisions while it is easier to talk about rather than waiting until they are on their own and make decisions without much guidance.
What type of sports/activities are they involved in?
Both of my kids take karate. Big Brother plays soccer and Little Brother plays basketball.
Where do you like to shop for your boys?
I get most of their clothes from Target and Old Navy.
What are some books/series your sons like to read?
Big Brother is a voracious reader. He loves all of the Rick Riordian books, 39 Clues, A-Z Mysteries, Magic Treehouse, Diary of a Wimpy Kid, and N.E.R.D.S.
Little Brother can’t read on his own yet, but he likes books that have characters he knows like the Ninja Turtles or Blues Clues.
How do you handle violence in play? Some of this is normal “boy” behavior, but when do you feel it crosses the line? How do you guide them?
I actually just tell my boys to be less violent. I try to turn things into something funny. Luckily the most violent thing I have had to worry about so far is just horsing around. It probably doesn’t make me mom of the year, but when they play rough and someone gets hurt, I just say, “I told you so.”
Biggest mess your sons have made.
Luckily my boys’ messes are usually just toys all over the place. However, Little Brother once flushed several bathtub toys. My ex-husband ended up having to dig a 6 foot hole in the backyard, which promptly filled with watsewater once the trap was clear. Pretty gross.
Give us your best tip for other moms of boys.
Your boys love you fiercely and with intent, love them back the same way.
I love being a boy mom because______
it’s reckless, wild, fun. There are victorious celebrations and devastating heartbreaks. They make me stronger, more feminine. I try to teach them strength and confidence. And no one love his mom more than a son!
A special message from Lindsey on why she loves being a mom of boys:
I never wanted kids. I wanted to live the not-so-starving writers life in New York City. And then one day I did. Boys. Two of them.
And so far, it’s been amazing.
Don’t get me wrong, pregnancy sucked. I really wasn’t that great at the whole lullaby thing. (http://www.dishwaterdreams.
And I wouldn’t change it for anything.
There is just something unique and cool about mothers and sons. I find that while I spent the first few years of their lives protecting them, they are starting to find ways to try to protect me. They will check my room for hidden zombies before bed or race to see who can help me pick up the fastest.
They still believe I’m cooler than other moms because I have tattoos and let them eat junk food every now and then.
They keep me grounded, moving forward, focused on the positive, and exhausted!
Lindsey – thank you for sharing your tips and family with us!
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