This past weekend my boys were fighting…A LOT. Every time I turned around someone was crying and I was at the point where I wanted to lock myself in my bedroom and put ear plugs in (you know that moment, right?).
I caught my oldest in the act – pushing his little brother down. Of course he got into trouble and spent some time in his room.
When he came out, I sat him down and we had a talk. I told him that we don’t push or hurt each other. He started crying that his brother stole a toy from him and he was trying to get it back.
If he does it again, then tell me instead of pushing him down.
Well, when I do you always yell at me and never him.
No, I don’t. If it happens again, come tell me.
Later that evening, I was getting dinner ready when my oldest came running into the kitchen.
Mom, he took a book right out of my hand.
Without thinking I started to say, “Stop tattling!”
Then it hit me like a ton of bricks and I had my Aha! moment! OMG – I do yell at him without thinking. He is totally right. I stopped myself in mid-sentence, turned and said to him “Thank you for telling me.”
I walked into the room to see what was going on. I felt bad because he was right. Most of the time, I yell at him since he is the bigger brother. However, there are many times I do catch my little guy antagonizing his big brother.
From that moment, I decided when this happens to talk with both of them instead of just yelling at the first person that runs into the room.
Tell me: do you catch yourself doing this?