He’s Just A Little Boy

by Tina @ Life Without Pink on May 1, 2012

Yesterday I came across this sign on Facebook {source unknown}:

Now that I’m a parent, I see things differently.

I remember being the child on the ball field, hearing parents from the sidelines screaming at their child for missing a ball.

It’s very intimidating.

My parents were always supportive and cheered me on. It didn’t matter if I missed the ball or struck out, I always knew they were still proud of me.

I vowed to be like that for my two boys.

Last year I wrote a post about giving my son a voice and how we let him make his own decision even at a young age.

This year he told me he wanted to play t-ball and he is really loving it.

My husband and I tell him before every game, “As long as you have fun, that’s all that matters.”

I love seeing my son give me a big smile and wave from the field. It shows me he is having fun and at the end of the day that’s all that matters.

Yes, there are still parents that yell at their child and it makes me cringe every time.

That’s why I believe the sign above should be on every ball field – no matter the age, no matter the sex.

Meet Tina @ Life Without Pink


2013 Family Expert for P&G's Have You Tried This Yet? Trend Trio, Tina is a mom of two active boys and the founder of Life Without Pink, a personal lifestyle blog focused on parenting, and raising boys to give other parents inspiration. You’ll find everything from cool gadgets, daily adventures, to personal stories and tips for raising boys. She's also the co-founder of Girls' Lunch Out {GLO}, a social media network that hosts events for women in social media and the Influencer Strategist for Socialstars by Crowdtap.

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1 Corinne May 1, 2012 at 9:41 am

great post. I saw this sign on FB, and loved it. My oldest plays soccer, so far we haven’t encountered any of those parents.
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2 Life Without Pink May 1, 2012 at 9:56 am

Thank you! I haven’t encountered too many crazy parents {just a few} but know there will be more down the line. As long as my boys know that we are proud of them no matter what, that’s all that matters :)

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3 Char May 1, 2012 at 9:51 am

This is just so true in youth sports in general anymore. I sat at my daughter’s field hockey game last night and just wanted to start handing out lollypops to the parents around me – just to get them to stop yelling. If you ask the kids – they just want to play the game – and more often than not, they don’t really care if they won or lost – unless its Mom and Dad they are trying to please.

Keep doing what you are doing, and your son will continue to play for the love of the sport and learn some great life lessons in the process!
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4 Life Without Pink May 1, 2012 at 9:56 am

Thanks so much. I love: “your son will continue to play for the love of the sport and learn some great life lessons in the process!” – that’s so true!

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5 Brook @ Redhead Reverie May 1, 2012 at 10:05 am

Awww…that sign brought tears to my eyes. And it’s so VERY true. I think no matter what sport they are in they are only “just boys”. We live in a college town that is football crazy and during those games the words that are said to those boys make my blood boil. Because at the end of the day it’s just a game, and they are just boys. Here’s to keeping it FUN!!!
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6 Life Without Pink May 1, 2012 at 11:12 am

You are so right. Wish other parents realized this.

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7 Jennifer B. (MommyBKnowsBest.com) May 1, 2012 at 10:07 am

I completely agree!!!! How sad, and true, thanks for sharing this!!
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8 Life Without Pink May 1, 2012 at 11:12 am

I hope other parents see this and hopefully it hits home with them too :)

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9 Ann Atwood - Grandmother May 1, 2012 at 10:15 am

What a wonderful and oh so true poem. Since it’s not politically correct to pray or say
the Pledge maybe this poem should be read before all little league games. Not only that, give a copy to all coaches and parents!

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10 Life Without Pink May 1, 2012 at 11:13 am

What a great idea! Imagine if they read this before all sporting games….amazing!

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11 Michele May 1, 2012 at 11:05 am

Dear Tina,
This is a subject very near and dear to my heart. I have raised 3 wonderful sons. One was a very casual athlete. He is 25 and an artist/musician. I have identical twin sons who are freshmen in college and were athletic forever. They are extremely capable players and played basket ball and soccer when they were little and at around 10 stayed with soccer. I have heard the nastiest talk on ball fields. That sign is a good reminder for all, including coaches, that these little fellows are just that little. And FYI, the unkind words still hurt when in High School. Many schools will ask people to leave if they get carried away, but many do not. Coaches are often the worst offenders. I am happy to tell you my sons are both playing soccer for their college,and still love it (at least most of the time).
If your sons continue to play, get ready for some fun times and some real challenges!

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12 Life Without Pink May 1, 2012 at 11:14 am

Awe thank you so much for sharing this with me. I just want my boys to be happy – no matter what they do. Sounds like you have 3 amazing sons :)

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13 Melinda@LookWhatMomFoundandDadtoo! May 1, 2012 at 11:29 am

youth sports are insane. I say print it out and hand it out to the coaches, they are the ones that should be talking to the parents.
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14 Life Without Pink May 2, 2012 at 8:14 pm

You are right…coaches and parents!

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15 molly May 1, 2012 at 11:36 am

I saw you post this on FB and shared it on my wall too. We recently started Landon in 3-year-old soccer and I could not believe some parents. They were yelling at their kids on the sidelines. Brow-beating them because they weren’t playing up to their parents’ standards. Awful. We too tell Landon to just have fun with it!
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16 Life Without Pink May 2, 2012 at 8:14 pm

Yes that’s horrible. Not only does it effect their child but the other kids around them. Sad that some parents act that way.

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17 melissa May 1, 2012 at 12:53 pm

100% agree, and that sign is fantastic. I literally can’t get over how far some parents take it.
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18 Life Without Pink May 2, 2012 at 8:15 pm

I know…some are very crazy!

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19 erica May 1, 2012 at 2:14 pm

Made me cry!
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20 Life Without Pink May 2, 2012 at 8:16 pm

I even witnessed a crazy soccer mom in the Fall – kicking chairs, got into fights with the parents – horrible!

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21 Alexandra May 1, 2012 at 4:08 pm

You wouldn’t believe the shouting match I got into with a father a few years ago. My son was on the soccer field, and wasn’t playing up to this man’s standards, I guess, since he kept shouting, “get that kid off the field! He’s costing us the game!”

I almost slugged him.

I asked him to be quiet, that was my son, and he said, “your son doesn’t have any business being on the field if he’s not going to play his heart out.”

It was almost a fist fight.

I wish I would have slugged him, although, with an attitude like his, I’m sure he would’ve hit me back.

It’s just a game, people. JUST A GAME.
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22 Life Without Pink May 2, 2012 at 8:17 pm

WOW, that makes me so sad. How can parents be like that? I would have slugged him, LOL.

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23 JDaniel4's Mom May 1, 2012 at 4:55 pm

I love this sign! I hope every parent on every ball field my son chooses to play on will understand what this sign is saying.
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24 Life Without Pink May 2, 2012 at 8:17 pm

It’s such a great message, isn’t it?

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25 Mellisa Button May 1, 2012 at 5:11 pm

This is wonderful. I have a nine year old football lover, and coincidentally even I tell him that it is up to him to have fun and enjoy whatever he does.
As for the sign, I just wish every parent would understand what that means.

Thanks for sharing.

-Mellisa
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26 Life Without Pink May 2, 2012 at 8:17 pm

I agree with you. Sports would be more enjoyable for everyone!

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27 A mom from Louisiana May 2, 2012 at 7:55 pm

I LOVE this sign!!! I wish the kids could read it before every game to the people in the stands. My oldest dropped out of sports when he was about 8 because of this very thing, he was not the best athlete on the team but he loved the sport and being part of a TEAM. It’s really sad because in high school they would have loved to have added him to the Football roster, but he refused for he hasn’t felt sure of himself since. He’s now in college and is a struggling student with only a few friends, but he is a wonderful young man that anyone would be proud of to have as a son. If only they had stopped criticizing him he may have been a great ball player in something besides baseball. He may have learned how to work as a team and Not as a loner. I know my son is not the first boy that this happened to, but it would be nice for him to have been the last. My other boy: he a great athelete and has much potential. But he also makes mistakes and tears up when he misses the ball. It breaks my heart to see him strike out because I know he’s harder on himself than his Father or the Coach or the other parents in the crowd. I was a ball player and it was very hard to walk up to that plate with all eyes on me and hit the ball. I try to explain this to my husband who is all about the win and how well he plays, that he needs to step back. I too: have caught myself yelling at him from the stands because I know he can play better than he does at times. And I step back! I walk as far away as I can without missing the game so he won’t hear me sigh. It is a basic human reaction. But my son won’t hear me, because I walk away. Why can’t we all walk away when we feel ourself about to sigh or yell at our child for missing a ball??? Or for that matter when they are yelling at MY son. He’s going into high school next year and …..,

I pray they don’t kill his spirit before he learns that it means nothing more than an afternoon at the ball park and should be all about fun, not winning, not scholarships, not being better than everyone else……but being the best THEY can be and to have fun doing it…. I could go on and on but I’ll stop

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28 Life Without Pink May 2, 2012 at 8:19 pm

Thank you for sharing your side. As a mom with two young children, it makes me scared as they get older. I just want them to know it’s all about having fun and not how good you are. Unfortunately, OTHER parents can ruin this. I think the message in this sign should be one that all sporting organization pass on.

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29 Kristen May 2, 2012 at 8:39 pm

I saw this too and as a coach for girls field hockey and lacrosse…it couldn’t have been said better. Our organization is actually going through positive coaching training right now and it will be extended to the parents after we have all completed it.

Honor the Game. Respect the Players!

P.S. I’m going to the GLO party in Philly before Bloggy Bootcamp kicks off. Hope I get to meet you in person!
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30 Nolie May 8, 2012 at 4:35 pm

I am not looking forward to ever encountering a situation where adults are forgetting they are kids and this is supposed to be fun. This mom will be exchanging words with said stupid parent.
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31 Laura Domeb July 7, 2012 at 4:07 pm

I want to look into purchasing at least one sign; does anyone know how or what website to prchase these through?

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32 summer March 12, 2013 at 1:29 pm

I would also like to buy one if you find out where @. Thanks

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33 Trina April 30, 2013 at 2:24 pm

This sign, from my unerstanding, (I have not actually seen it at the fields, but haven’t looked either) is actually up at the fields where my son plays tball. He just started this year. I noticed the ‘Cana Tigers’ at the bottom. It’s a team out of Corsicana, TX.

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34 Trina April 30, 2013 at 2:25 pm

understanding**

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35 Kelly May 15, 2013 at 1:42 pm

Hey Tina!
Do you have any idea where we can buy these?

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