Behind Every Door Is A Story

A few weeks ago, I was out doing errands with my mom and boys. As we were passing by a street filled with homes my mom said to me, “You know, behind every door is a story.”

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I live in the same town that I grew up in and the other day I drove by an old friend’s home. His Dad was outside doing yard work and that’s when that statement hit me hard.

Three years ago, he lost his wife. I remember because it was the same day my son turned two.

Seeing him outside trying to carry on with life, made me realize you just never know what people are going through or the hardships they are dealing with.

So many times in life we judge people for the things they do, money they make or the way they look.

I’ve always been a pretty compassionate person and have always tried to get to know people for who they really are inside.

I was the girl in high school that had friends from all different walks of life and I really feel this has helped me become the person I am today.

Now as a parent, I realize how important it is to teach my boys to never judge or make fun of someone. I want them to be compassionate, caring men with a good heart…..because you never know the story behind the door.



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  1. says

    This is just SO true. You never know what is truly going on in someone’s life unless you are in their shoes. Things may look picture perfect on the outside, while inside they are struggling. I definitely want to teach my son not to judge people too!
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  2. says

    You are so right. Our society seems to be extremely judgey these days. No one is thin enough, pretty enough, rich enough, smart enough, good enough wife or mother and the list goes on.

    Your boys have a great future ahead, as they have a mom with her head squarely on her shoulders!
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  3. says

    So true. I think that we, as parents, have an obligation to our children to teach them compassion and empathy. Judgement can begin at a very early age. The sooner we direct children away from that kind of behavior, the better off they will be. Great post!
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  4. says

    What a very true statement Tina. I was raised that way, and try to be very cognizant of keeping that belief alive every day. There needs to be more people in the world that think like that, that not only say that when they feel someone is being critical of them, but all the time. I find a lot of people I know are quick, to say “well that person should walk a mile in my shoes”, but maybe it’s the other person’s shoes that they should be walking in. Kindness, acceptance, and understanding compassion are often rarities it seems.
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  5. says

    So, so, so true! I remember growing up hearing that you need to a walk a mile in someone else’s shoes before you judge them. Someone else is always fighting a harder battle than we are. And it’s so important to teach our children that things aren’t always the way that they seem on the outside.
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  6. says

    Such a great post!! This is so true. I hope I can raise my son to be thoughtful and selfless. It’s so easy to misjudge people, and criticize, never bothering to find out their story. But when you take the time, usually you’ll find that they are amazing human beings. Thanks for this!
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  7. says

    I hate to repeat what everyone else has said but IT IS SO TRUE. You never really know what is going on behind closed doors nor do you know people’s stories…and almost everyone has one. However, I do think it is easier said than done to raise our kids without this way of thinking. We can certainly do our best (as I am attempting) but it is no easy challenge in this world we live in :).

  8. says

    Very well said! I strive to teach my boys the same thing…I strive to teach some of the adults around me too:) I just found your blog and have been looking around. I too am a mom to two boys (3.5 and almost one). Oh the energy. Anyway, I’ll be back!
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  9. liz says

    It’s a very good reminder to all of us. We don’t know what really is going on in anyone’s life – for better or worse.

  10. says

    Very true. Every person has their own story and if you judge them based on what you see on the outside you will never learn about who they really are.
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  11. says

    Judging is human nature. But when it occurs I try to stop and think about what is happening in someone’s life. This is especially good if you’re a teacher. You often wonder about the children that are in my charge for a year. So much goes on behind the scenes.

  12. says

    Have you read The Little Buddha’s post today about being kind? Totally in keeping with what you wrote (so beautifully) here. It’s easier to be kind to some than it is to others, no?
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  13. says

    This is SO true. I’ve heard the story before (don’t know if its true) about the dad who was letting his kids go wild on the subway. People were staring and making comments to one another when someone finally spoke up and told the dad they couldn’t believe he’d let his kids act like that. The dad looked up and told them “We’re on the way back from the hospital where they just lost their mother. I’m having a hard time knowing how to react too.”

    Frick- just writing that out makes me cry. Great post, Tina. We shouldn’t judge a book by its cover.
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  14. says

    Ok, Melissa’s comment gave me chills too!

    I am a firm believer in this too. We get a lot of looks when Aiden has his tantrums in public. It got so bad that we haven’t gone out to dinner together for a few months. Which is hard, we like to reward ourselves with a night out.
    People would look at us like we didn’t know how to “control” our child, or would mumble under their breath “that that kid needs some discipline.” They don’t understand that sometimes he just can’t help it, that sometimes the crowds overwhelm him, and that he can only sit still for so long.
    You really don’t know everyone’s back story…and sometimes you just need to reach out and ask if they need some help.
    Thank you for the reminder.
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  15. says

    One of my favorite quotes is – Be kinder than necessary, for everyone you meet is fighting some kind of battle.

    I try very hard to live by these words. Sometimes I succeed, sometimes I don’t. I have a little boy too (with another on the way) and I want to him to learn by example and know what true compassion is. Being the example is hard sometimes. Admitting when you could have done something differently is harder. I am finding the older my son gets the more aware I am of my actions.

    Great post!

  16. JDaniel4's Mom says

    JDaniel sees all people as the same I need to make sure that I don’t teach him anything different.

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