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The other day I was getting dressed when my five-year-old walked into the room.
Big A: “Mom how did you and Daddy make me?”
I literally spit out my coffee. OMG did he just asked me what I think he did?
I didn’t know how to react. I thought I had years to talk about this.
This is my husband’s department, I am so bad under pressure. But I collected my thoughts and tried to remain calm.
Me: “Well Mommy and Daddy met and fell in love with each other. Then we decided to get married because we wanted to stay together forever. After awhile we decided we wanted to start a family and that’s when we had you and your brother.”
Phew I dodged the question and gave him a round about answer.
Big A: “What does married mean?”
Me: “It means when you love someone very much and want to stay with them forever. I knew I wanted to be with your Daddy so we got married and moved into a house together.”
Big A: “Oh. So when I get married do I live with the person?”
Me: “Yes you will one day.”
Big A: “But I don’t want to. I want you to live with me too.”
Awe my sweet boy, still putting his Mama first.
Me: “If you want me to live with you and your wife, I will honey.”
Big A: “Ok that’s a deal right?”
Me: “Absolutely! But we will probably have to check with your wife to make sure she is ok with it.”
Big A: “Ok, but I think she will be.”
Me: “Promise me something?”
Big A: “What Mom?”
Me: “That you will never be afraid to give me kisses and hugs especially when you are as big as your Daddy.”
Big A: “I won’t. You are my best girl ever!”
Now that’s how you avoid an almost terrifying conversation. I am hoping I have a few more years before he asks me that question again. I guess I should start practicing now to get my story straight.
Have your kids put you on the spot yet?
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No one the spot questions yet but my oldest is going to be five soon so I guess I better start getting ready for it!
Stephanie´s last [type] ..I just don’t get…
Get your story straight now! The question is coming!
My daughter asked me how the baby was going to come out of Aunt Brooke’s (my pregnant sister) belly. I had no idea what to say, so I just said “the doctor will take it out”.
You gave a great answer! And I love how your son is already calling the shots in his future marriage
LOL he is a man that knows what he wants!
I’ve got tears in my eyes! What a sweet boy! I hope that he will always hug and kiss you!
Me too
Aw so sweet! We had the conversation about why do you have a ring and what does married mean last night.
NotJustAnotherJennifer´s last [type] ..Weekly Report
Really?!? How did it go?
So sweet! H asks me all the time about how babies get out of bellies. I just tell him the doctor knows how to do it, and that’s why mommies go to the hospital to have the baby. He knows I’m holding out on him, though, so he keeps badgering me.
H also wants to live with us forever, which I find endearing right now. At 18, though, he’s out of here.
Missy @ Wonder, Friend´s last [type] ..I Hope Nobody Chases Me
So true! My brother is over 30 and still at home, NO WAY!
What a little sweetheart.
There are days when I’d love for my mother-in-law to live with us. She cleans a lot better than I do. lol
Jenn @ South of Sheridan´s last [type] ..Visitors
Oh you are a good woman! I just hope my future daughter-in-laws can say the same thing about me
Awwww…
you dodged the question well! and your boy is very sweet!
Cluttered Brain´s last [type] ..Something that is making me happy RIGHT now
Phew, that was a scary one!
Way to dodge the bullet on that question and turn it in to something so sweet. You will have to remind him of this post when he is older.
Jessica´s last [type] ..Another Recap
I know I printing it out now and stuffing it in his baby book, lol.
So sweet! Your boy sounds like such a good kid!
We get a lot of questions about death, because our two dogs died. It is really hard and uncomfortable to answer those questions at their level.
Kmama´s last [type] ..I Heart Faces- Pets
Oh that must be so hard! We’ve had to discuss this too and I always try to watch what I say. I want them to understand but not get too freaked out.
My kids are almost 11, 10, and 8, so yes! Many times! At first I did a lot of the answering minimally and avoiding as much as possible but I’m getting better. I know the more open and honest you are, the better but in an age appropriate manner.
Exactly. I try to tell my son in 5yr old terms. I believe in being honest as well but this one threw me for a loop that he was even thinking about this!
My kids tell me they’re going to marry me and live with me forever! I just smile HUGELY and say yep, that’s how it’s going to work. I’m their only girlfriend. We don’t need them knowing anything more right now
MommaKiss´s last [type] ..WW 427
Exactly! We are their girlfriend and I love it
oh as the mom of just boys, this post just warmed my heart. I worry so much about them not being close to me. But reading this, I realize it might be up to me, to make sure they don’t want to leave me.
No hot seat questions like this yet….more like “who is God’s Daddy?” got anything for me on that one???
Kir´s last [type] ..Mama Kats Writing Workshop- Tell Me Something Good
Oh I got that one too and stumbled again! These kids and their questions, super smart! I fear all the time that they will go away to college, meet a girl, fall in love and never come back. That’s why I told my hubby they have to go to college not too far from home
We got the What is sex question last week. I’m going to write up a post on it in the next day or so. I was lucky, my hubby was there too. So we both sort of answered the question–enough for a seven year old any way.
VandyJ´s last [type] ..We Want To Know
Oh my! I am not ready for this type of stuff! My hubby is good under pressure but not me, lol
Thankfully, Moo is still at the stage where she’s only concerned with toys, cartoons and the park. LOL.
YUMMommy´s last [type] ..Lessons of Motherhood
That is the cutest thing ever!!! He loves his Mama! And you totally dodged a bullet on that one. Let’s be serious though…would you want your husbands mother living with you? Hell to the NO!
Rachel {at} Mommy Needs a Vacation´s last [type] ..About Me…Take 2
Kate also wants to live with us when she gets big. It’s so funny!
She has hit us with nearly all the big ones.
liz´s last [type] ..A Belle- A Bean &38 an Egg Hunt
My daughter says she will never marry and live with me forever. My son has agreed to get married so I can have grandbabies! Yea!
My daughter has already asked the question and FORCED me to answer. She just kept digging and digging . . . yea, but how does that happen. My vague answers were no longer sufficient. Luckily I had a handy book in the back of my closet. We read it together and now she doesn’t want to talk about any of it at all. ; )
Amy ~ Eat. Live. Laugh. Shop.´s last [type] ..Devastation
Yes I know there will be a day when he will ask again, so I have to prepare my story now! How sweet that she said she wants to live with you forever, love their sweetness!
HOW STINKIN’ CUTE IS HE?!?!? Eeeeeeep, the “You are my best girl ever,” line totally got me. So sweet! Way to dodge that bullet, girl!
Charlotte´s last [type] ..Giving the benefit of the doubt
I am dreading that day when my daughter asks me that question. You handled it perfectly!!! Great way to react when she put you on the spot!
A Mommy in the City´s last [type] ..Facing the Unknown
“she” was supposed to be “he”
A Mommy in the City´s last [type] ..Facing the Unknown
I know my mind went blank for a second! I was totally not ready for this one…I am sure there will be a lot more questions where this came from!
Tina @ Life Without Pink´s last [type] ..The Day I Became A Mother
Perfect.
Never tell them more than they ask for.
Alexandra´s last [type] ..Sunday Best – Love in the Chaos
Haven’t had that question… but I did get “Mommy was I in your belly”" Why yes bug you were… as she looks down my shirt she says “where is the door?” OMG What bug? “What door did I come out mommy? I don’t see a door, How could I get out without a door!” I showed her my belly button and she seemed to be fine with that answer! LOL kids are a trip!!
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