Harmony is one of the many awesome ladies I have met on my blogging journey. Like myself, she loves to keep active and is always on the go. Her blog, Baby-To-Go, makes you realize just because you have children doesn’t mean you have to stop traveling. Its tough yes but not unthinkable.
We also have another thing in common; we are both living a life without pink. Harmony shares what this means to her.
Every family has that crazy uncle. Right? Well I have one that talks and talks and talks… and tells the same stories over and over. And over. He’s quite a character and seriously from another time. I think he’s stuck in the 50’s. And most of the time he’s crazy talk, mixed in with some funny stories (if you are laughing with or at, I’m not sure) but every now and then he says something dead on.
On Sunday he told me that I need to have more children. That I need to have a girl. Because in the end (he is 72) that is who you can count on to take care of you.
Case in point. My dad’s parents. They have four sons and two daughters. When my grandmother fell ill in 2006, who moved from NYC to North Carolina tocare for her? Not one of her sons. And when she passed, and it became clear that my now 98-year-old grandfather needed care, who stayed in NC? Hmmm… I kinda see his point.
Okay, so maybe this isn’t exactly a scientific study… but it did get me thinking. About more children. A girl…
We are blessed with our son, who is now 16 months old. When I first took the pregnancy test, I assumed the growing baby was a girl. Because I am a girl, and that is what I envisioned. At 19 weeks we found out that the baby was a boy. And at first I was a little b
it disappointed. But of course I got super excited… and a little scared… I mean seeing that I have never been a little guy myself, how would I know what the hell to do with a BOY?
Now, I couldn’t imagine it any other way. Even at only 16 months old, my son is rough and tumble. Dirty all the time. Hurts himself about ten times a day. Such a boy.
But he has also not been an easy dude. Between the sleep troubles, picky eating, separation anxiety… we have had a rough 16 months. And it’s sad, because although hubby and I always imagined having two kids (a boy and a girl of course) we are now not sure we want to have anymore.
And it’s not just the tough newborn stage that we are hesitant to relive. We know that as a family of three we can do so much more. Financially, logistically and each of us personally and professionally. But of course doing things and having things are only made better by the special people you share your life with. Like children and siblings.
Although getting back to my uncle’s point. If we have more kids… it will be only one more. And there is no guarantee that it will be a girl! And I think that if I could write the script, I would want another boy. I love the idea of brothers. Boys are amazing and special. Besides we have all the blue gear & clothes and I’d like to continue my reign as Queen Bee of this house.
I’ll make sure my boy (or boys) knows to always take care of his momma. And if we remain girl-less, at least I wont have to worry about buying an 8 year old a Juicy tracksuit or Coach purse…
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thanks for the glowing intro and for having me on Life Without Pink!
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I’m on the other side of the wall…I have two girls. No little men to call my own. My poor hubby is a lonely guy in a whole house full of girls. Maybe that’s why he got the dog…
Anway, good luck making your decision to have or not to have more kids. It’s not an easy one at all.
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Any mom who is the only dose of estrogen in the house, is an automatic bud. See you at your place.
Great guest post, BTW.
I’m right there with you about not being sure about a second child, even though that’s what we originally planned – Cole had SO many difficulties and really? I was SO sick for my entire pregnancy.
We’re in a good place, though, because, if we do have a 2nd, we’d be equally thrilled with a boy or girl
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I got to see my crazy uncle at our family reunion this week! That was pretty fun!
I want a baby and I would take a boy or a girl but I am definitely ready for some pink around the house : )
I live outside of Philly and work in the city : )Maybe we are neighbors.
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Oh yeah! Everyone has the crazy uncle! And I can tell you from experience, the girl is def. taking over my Queen Bee status!!
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Great post Harmony! I’m so glad to find this new blog!
Not having experienced the mommy role yet, I think I would have at least two. I’d be lost without my sister!
thanks everyone for stopping by Tina’s place and reading my thoughts on boys and the elusive baby #2! A story to be continued I’m sure…
.-= harmskills´s last blog ..Springo =-.
Add me to the life without pink list! I have two boys (born three years apart on the SAME day, might I add)… but I was convinced #2 was a girl. I fantasized about cute girl clothes and pigtails. I am one of three girls myself.
But now I can’t even imagine having a girl! My little man is so adorable and there’s just something so sweet about having two of the same sex!
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I always knew I wanted four kids (just crazy, I guess). The first two were boys, and my husband & i would joke about having four boys. We were shocked when #3 (and later #4) were girls.
The crazy thing is how different all four are from each other. So, even though your son has been slightly challenging, you may get “the easy one” next time.
My husband swears the boys are going to take care of us. Then I remind him that his mother lives 1100 miles away! That he left her for me! (even though she still has her two daughters to take care of her)
Exactly! She has 2 daughters! I am my parent’s only daughter. We haven’t seen my brother in a year! What if you are right! We should go adopt a girl I suppose cause pregnancy is out of the question!!!
I want my boys to be happy and have good marriages someday and I refuse to be the needy MIL hated by their wives!
OH THE AGONY OF IT ALL!
I come from a family of 4 girls (5 including myself) and 1 boy. When we got pregnant I wished, willed and prayed for a boy. And we got him. I never thought about who would take care of us in old age…mostly because my grandmother has 3 boys and the older 2 stepped up to take care of their mom when she needed it. I guess you can never tell how your kid(s) will be once they have lives of their own, but you hope you taught them well, right?
Great guest post!
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I agree with your crazy uncles point. Women in general are so much more nuturing and tend to be the caretakers of both children and the elderly.